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CURING CHRONIC BUSYNESS:What’s Reallyat the Core?

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CONTENTSAfter the Affair............................................2

Why You Need a Will...................................6

Curing Chronic Busyness: What’s Really at the Core?.................................................12

Cleaning Tips With Everyday Items............13

An Honour to Serve & Assist with One’s Healing.....................................16

Carpe Diem.............................................18

Picking the Perfect Colour, is it Possible?.....22

Should My Child See a Psychologist?.........26

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I am writing this in the middle of February, and the temperature is reading 12 degrees Celsius while the sun beams through the window in my office. Needless to say, I can see the light; winter is on its way out. I have said it before, “winter is

not my thing!” Our family was not able to get away this winter, but for the first time it wasn’t completely unbearable, as Mother Nature has had mercy on us!

I have had a wonderful few months meeting with existing and new business owners who contribute tremendously to the community. In this issue, you will find several new faces. Blue Rock Wellness, has opened it’s doors, and offers hot yoga! Gary Indech has tons to teach us regarding wills and estates. Airikka Passmore & Associates has been helping small businesses in town with their accounting needs, and her team is dynamite! Southside Paints is also making an appearance and helping with your decorating needs. Ryan Haydar has been in the real estate industry for 15 years, and is the new President at Milton BMX Club. I didn’t even know we had a BMX club, did you? Now that spring is here, if you are lucky enough to have a pool, Cannonball Pools is your go to for everything pools. Last but not least, Hand Heart & Sole would love to help you heal your body through various techniques, including reflexology and so much more!

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Steps to Take to Recover from an AffairLearning about a partner’s infi delity is likely one of the biggest betrayals one could experience. In the immediate aftermath of an affair coming to light, both partners typically experience a roller coaster of emotions. The partner who had the affair tends to feel guilt, shame, fear, and even relief that they no longer have to hide their behaviors. Their partner, in the face of such a betrayal, often feels disoriented, as the one person they thought would be loyal and truthful has instead lied to them and kept secrets. In order to continue and strengthen the relationship, and to reduce the probability of future betrayals, it is necessary for the couple to undergo four key steps.

1. Understand the ImpactThe partner who has had an affair needs to understand what their partner’s experience is in order to remain supportive. Their partner will likely have dramatic shifts in moods in response to their internal thoughts or memories, ranging from sadness (sense of loss of the relationship and the partner they believed they had), anger (at the lies and betrayal), anxiety (fear of the relationship ending or continued affairs), and disconnection (attempts to block out hurtful feelings). Due to the breach in trust, their partner will likely also be highly suspicious and perhaps obsessive about their whereabouts and behaviors.

The partner who has just learned of their partner’s infi delity may be confused by their partner’s behaviors after the affair has come to light. Commonly, the unfaithful partner’s fi rst response

Between 20-25% of men, and 10-15% of women admit to having been unfaithful at some point. There is less difference between the genders among younger samples.

After the Affairis one of denial, an attempt to maintain the secret. Afterwards, the unfaithful partner typically expresses remorse, guilt and shame, but at other times may become defensive (in order to reduce the guilt and shame) or withdrawn (attempts to block out emotions).

2. Full DisclosureIn order to rebuild the trust, it is essential that the partner who has had the affair fully discloses the nature of the affair. Although this should include things like when the affair began, methods of communication, and the extent of the affair (emotional or sexual), it is typically not a good idea for partners to share graphic descriptions of sexual acts.

3. Restore the TrustIn order to restore the trust in the relationship, it is essential that the partner who has had the affair fully discloses the nature of the affair, provides a genuine and heartfelt apology, and continues to behave in a manner worthy of trust. This may include providing their partner with access to private information (e.g. email, bank statements) and/or updates as to their whereabouts. It is often necessary under times of stress and anxiety for the partner who had the affair to reassure their partner of their love and ongoing commitment to the relationship. It is essential at such times that they do not get angry or defensive in response to their partner’s continued anxieties.

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there is often not one clear explanation. However, understanding the circumstances will allow you to decide where to best direct your emotional energy in regards to strengthening the relationship.

a. Know your partnerThe most common reasons people give for having an affair relate to an unfulfilled relationship need, a need that is not being met in their relationship with their partner. In particular, partners sensitive to criticism or rejection are vulnerable to people and relationships which include admiration, praise and attention. Partners who require connection are vulnerable to people and relationships in which they are a priority and feel understood. Knowing your partner’s sensitivities, and their relationship needs is essential to meeting these needs and rebuilding the relationship.

b. Address mental health vulnerabilitiesMental health, and difficulties with emotion regulation in particular, can contribute to an individual’s vulnerability to infidelity. Similar to eating, spending money, and gambling, sex is a behavior that provides distraction; it is something new, and thus, temporary emotional

relief. If mental health is a factor, it is important that the couple creates an agreed on plan as to how to address any future declines in emotional functioning early (e.g. visit to family physician, medications, therapy).

The process of recovering as a couple after an affair is an emotionally demanding process, with lots of places for couples to get stuck. Having a therapist moderate the difficult conversations that need to happen, and to guide you in the process of reconnection, can be helpful. A therapist trained in Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples will also clarify the needs of each partner during the process, and going forward, reduce the risk of future infidelity and bring you emotionally closer to one another.


FI was working in my offi ce one day when Mr. Jones rushed in unannounced in a frenzy. After calming him down, he told me that

his mother, brother and father had died. I told him again to slow down and explain what happened. He told me that six months ago his mother died. However, on Sunday his brother died and two days later, on Tuesday, his father died. After asking how he was doing, I asked him what was in his brother’s estate and his father’s estate. He told me that he had no idea about his father’s estate because they had been estranged for several years, but that his brother owned a town-house worth approximately $350,000 mortgage-free. I then asked him whether his brother was married or had children; he said that his brother had no spouse or children, that he was the only surviving relative of his brother, and that he stood to inherit the town-house.

Then I asked him whether his brother had a will and, if he did, what was written in it. Mr. Jones said as far as he knew the brother had no will but it didn’t matter because Mr. Jones was now the only living relative. I then asked the same question about his father. Mr. Jones said that his father did have a will, leaving everything to the despised common law wife. But Mr. Jones didn’t

The most frequent question I get asked as a Wills and Estates lawyer is “why do I need a will?” I answer that everyone should have a will to retain control over how your estate is distributed upon your death, as opposed to government legislation dictating who inherits. The following true story clearly illustrates why everyone should have their will.

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care about her, as he was only concerned about his brother’s town-house.

After assessing the situation, I told my client that unfortunately the law spoke differently. I explained that under the Ontario Succession Law Reform Act, when a person dies without a will, the order of inheritance under the legislation is spouse, children, parents, siblings. In Mr. Jones’ brother’s case, he died without a will with no spouse and no children. Therefore, next in line were his parents. As the mother died six months prior, her estate received nothing. However, because the father lived two days after the brother died, the father’s estate took the brother’s entire estate. But further, because the father had a will leaving his entire estate to the despised common law wife, in effect the common law wife inherited the brother’s estate. When my client heard this, he went ballistic because he believed he should have inherited his brother’s entire estate, including the town-house, as he was the only surviving blood relative.

In the end, we negotiated an amicable settlement with the lawyer for the common law wife, probated the brother’s estate naming my client as executor and sole benefi ciary. My client was extremely

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What is chronic busyness? It is the tendency we have to go through life at a break-neck pace, where every square on our calendar is full, if not overlapping. A calendar which, by the way, we no longer just have on our wall at home or at the offi ce, we have with us on our tablets and smartphones because we need to steal quick glances at it while we’re on the go, and we also need reminders from our electronic calendar because we are so busy that we can’t remember all the things with which we have busied ourselves! This type of busyness is not just at a particular time of year or in a certain season, it’s the fast-forward pace at which we can get sucked into living each day of our lives. We take on more and more and juggle roles and duties in an impressive display. Sometimes our busyness feels energizing, productive and perhaps even a little satisfying, but when it becomes chronic, (as for so many in our culture it has) a different experience ensues…

What’s so bad about it? Chronic busyness creates within us a weariness deep within us that even a little extra sleep doesn’t alleviate. It also gets in the way of self-care and healthy living, and of our awareness of our own and others’ feelings (leading us to be both unreasonably hard on ourselves and unempathic

towards others). Furthermore, our minds are divided and distracted; we can’t be fully present in anything because we are striving to do everything (which impacts both our enjoyment of life and our ability to acknowledge, and therefore cope with, diffi culties that arise). Research in many fi elds advises us that chronic busyness is not sustainable without some very negative side effects: emotional, physical and/or spiritual burnout is the ultimate result.

What’s at the core? Often when we are chronically busy and then attempt to slow down, we feel ill at ease and restless. This is somewhat due to the materialistic myth that more is better (and we cannot get more when we are sitting still). But our discomfort with rest is also because simply slowing down won’t cure what our busyness was covering up: a sense that we must work to be worthy, succeed to be suffi cient, accomplish to be adored; we are often over-busy because we long for love and acceptance. Our identity is wrapped up in our performance, instead of being grounded in what most of us would fundamentally agree with in our heads but struggle to feel in our hearts: we have innate value and signifi cance.

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What can “cure” it? We need to renew our focus on our values and spend time working towards the integration of those values into our hearts (rather than keeping them all in our heads). When we learn to approach each day from a place of secure identity, self-esteem and worth, we will release the stranglehold of performance-based living and feel a sense of relief. We will then be able to choose our activities more wisely and invest both ourselves and our time in a manner that brings more enduring satisfaction.

References & Related Reading:http://www.carlhonore.com/books/in-praise-of-slowness/

Cherry, S. (2013). Beyond Busyness: Time Wisdom in an Hour. Sacristy Press: Durham, England

Courtney, V. (2015). Rest Assured: A Recovery Plan for Weary Souls. Thomas Nelson: Nashville, TN

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As one of many hands-on energy therapies, I like to describe Reiki as a warm ray of sunshine. The energy is gentle, comforting, loving and nurturing. It is able to affect a person physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The giver of Reiki is open to allowing life force energy to fl ow through them, to the recipient, who is open and willing to receive that life force.

Reiki is able to accelerate healing, assist the body of cleansing and releasing toxins, to balance the fl ow of subtle energy (etheric bodies) by releasing blockages and enables the client to connect with creator source and with their own healer within. Anyone may learn to tap into the unlimited supply of ‘life force energy’ and to improve health and enhance the quality of life by learning Reiki. This may be for themselves or for sharing with their loved ones, even pets, by receiving treatments from a Reiki practitioner or master.


Last year, Abby was headed home from her fl ight training session where she was doing various controlled procedures such as steep turns,

stalls, spiral dives at approx 8,000 feet. Ironically, during her drive home, she lost control on black ice and unfortunately T-boned into oncoming traffi c. Abby spent weeks recovering from this accident. One year later, her husband lays in bed at the Juravinski Hospital recovering from his bone marrow transplant. The reality of how short life can be has hit home for this couple.

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Abby Khalid and Peter Batchelour have always believed in the Latin aphorism carpe diem. Never taking a single day for granted, they live life to the fullest without any regrets. Most of us want the courage to live like this because we know the truth behind another old saying: “life is short.” No one understands this better than Abby and Peter.

Abby and Peter met while working in the United Kingdom, it wasn’t long before Peter knew he wanted to marry Abby. So he approached her parents for their consent in asking for her hand in marriage with their blessing and then surprised her with an engagement in Paris, they then married in the U.K. The couple were both equally excited to get to the adventure they call life and were eager to start a family. Unfortunately, this did not come easily, in 2009, after IVF treatment, they were expecting twins, sadly Abby miscarried at

Abby Khalid and Peter Batchelour have always believed in the Latin aphorism carpe diem.

Carpe Diem

just over 3 months. In 2010, doctors found a benign ovarian cyst. Later that year, Abby became pregnant with twins again and miscarried one of the twins, just shy of four months. Zain their son (the other twin) was born in 2011. In 2012 there was more heartbreak whereby Abby miscarried a set of twins once again. Hence, they call Zain their 6 million dollar baby.

Abby has been coming to Canada every year/couple of years since 2000, she holds her private pilots licence and has completed her Commercial Pilots licence and the goal was to one day become a fl ight instructor. “I have always had a love affair with Canada, and always knew I would end up here!” The couple started the immigration process in order to move to Canada in 2007. After fi ve years of waiting for an approval, with no decision from the immigration offi ce, Abby and Peter decided to go all out and spend a large sum in coming to Canada for a three week vacation. Abby fi gured this immigration issue was never going to resolve itself. Five days after they returned to England from their trip, the letter came with the approval. With Immigration giving them seven weeks

to leave for Canada. Somehow, they managed to sell their assets and organise agents and a removal company to take care of what needed to be transferred. Then off they went to Canada with seven pieces of luggage.

Once in Milton, Abby stayed at home with Zain and in between her continued fl ight training towards becoming a Flight Instructor, she also started volunteering her photography skills at Zain’s preschool, as well as for Halton Railway Museum, and for friends. She has also involved herself in various fundraisers in town, through her training in Zumba. She loved Zumba so much that she decided to take 3 licenses in 2 days! She now has 5 licences in Zumba. Abby has worked closely with her friend, mentor and fellow Zumba instructor Terri Naccarato in fundraising initiatives to benefi t juvenile diabetes, as well as several cancer foundations.

At the end of August, after a dream road trip out to the west coast with Zain, Peter came down with what they thought was the fl u. On the 18th of September, after a trip


and admission into the Milton District Hospital, many tests, and a transfer to Oakville, they were told that Peter has Acute Myeloid Leukemia which is a cancer of the blood and bone marrow. Abby recalls her fi rst reaction: “ I wanted to smash the chair through a window in the hospital room. My friends and family tried to console me by telling me stories of people they knew who have had Cancer in one form or another. All I could think of was, “I don’t care about them! Why me? Why us? The love of my life, the man I live for, has it!” Peter was transferred that following Saturday to the Juravinski Hospital in Hamilton. Abby remembers feeling overwhelmed with the most trivial things: “I didn’t even know how to get to Juravinski!” She still experiences anxiety about driving as a result of her car accident. Once at Juravinski, Peter was started on chemotherapy immediately. Soon after, he contracted a fungal infection to his face as a result of a low immune system, which required surgery. The surgery involved shaving some bone off from his cheek and eye socket area, and his nose. Abby recalls worrying about Zain being frightened by the way his daddy would look, so she decided to buy Peter a “pirate’s eye patch” on his birthday and Peter could “play pirate” for Zain during his visits.

The couple has been experiencing much fi nancial strain since Peter’s diagnosis. His position was performance based, therefore his income is very limited. In addition to dealing with Peter’s condition, Abby has been faced with the responsibility of making ends meet on a fraction of the salary that they have been accustomed to. She shares, “I have had to put my mortgage payments on hold for three months, because I simply can not make them.” Back in the late fall of 2015, community members and friends organized a fundraiser at Shoeless Joe’s in order to help with added expenses such as parking, and gas to and from the hospital. Abby gratefully admits, “It was a huge help! When you are in crisis this way, you will know

from day one who will be there for you.” Abby was in shock the day she received an envelope with a generous monetary gift from a member of the aviation community, she decided the most fi tting way to spend this money was to install winter tires on her car. “I fi gured, this way, this beautiful soul who donated this would be with my family everywhere we went.”

Currently, Peter is waiting to have a Hickman line inserted from his neck through to his heart in order to administer

his treatment medication more effectively. His turbo boost chemotherapy will be started soon after and he is then scheduled for his bone marrow transplant. Both of Peter’s brothers are a match for his bone marrow transplant, the middle brother is the best match, the transplant took place a couple of days before Valentine’s Day. In a perfect world, life should resume back to normal. However, this is a long recovery process as Peter has lost so much muscle mass and his immune system is practically non-existent which it needs to be to receive the new bone marrow.

When a family is faced with circumstances such as a health crisis, there is always a lesson to be learned. “I live my life for today. I prepare for tomorrow, but I do not know what it will bring, so I live for the moment and to the fullest.” When asked about the one lesson she has learned in all of this, she pauses and as a tear falls, she replies, “Remain humble, because in life, it does not matter what you have or own. If you do not have your health, all the things that you do have are meaningless.”

On behalf of Family Matters in Milton, I urge all families, regardless of faith, to send healing prayers and vibes to this beautiful family. I encourage you all to live life to the fullest, everyday. In Abby’s words, “Stay Humble, and Carpe Diem!”

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